Week #28: He's ALIVE!!!! (An Email From His Trainer)

We have not received an email from Elder Buhler since October 9. Our last letter he wrote to us was dated in December. We didn't get to skype him at Christmas. Up to this time, he has been with his trainer, Elder Kim. They were the only two missionaries on the island of Marakei that has no internet. Elder Kim transferred to Tarawa and wrote us last week. I wrote him back and asked him how Jacob was doing with the divorce etc. He wrote back today and sent pictures. Apparently the island ran out of postage so Jacob has not been able to send letters. Elder Buhler is now with Elder Carrington, one of his MTC companions. 

Kim,

He is doing awesome. He is happy.  He totally has immersed himself in the work.

He is trying his hardest to not let that [Note: referring to our divorce]  affect his work. I remember saying that he just doesn't want to deal with it. At the same time, he is dying to know how everything is going. The last letter he got from you guys was in the big package. You had mentioned that you were dating. He had mixed feelings about it.

I don't know yet if President Weir has let him know, but I remember him saying that he just doesn't want to deal with any of that at the moment.

Send him some more food! He is doing well with the food here, but he enjoys his mac & cheese and beef jerky. Haha.

Also, he was upset that he didn't get any letters from his dad. so if you could let him know...that would be great for Elder Buhler

He is doing awesome. Don't worry about him. He is being protected and watched over by our Heavenly Father.

Elder Kim

Week #26: Elder Buhler Is a Senior Companion

Dear Buhler Family,

This is Elder Kim, and I just came in from Marakei on Wednesday

I'm just sending your son's regards. He has received many packages and he is very grateful for the five jars of peanut butter. Haha.

Elder Buhler is doing very very well. He is doing well with the language and culture. He is now the senior companion, and his companion is Elder Carrington, from his intake.

I have total trust in Elder Buhler that he will take care of the island of Marakei!

Anyways, I have personally forced him to write many letters. However, the island has been out of stamps since January. But he has many letters waiting to post off to you all.

He is doing awesome. He is very happy. Very Skinny...haha. He's fine.

Take Care

love

Elder Kim

Week 23: Loving the People and the Work

Hi family,

So I just heard from E. Young Cassie got a 31 on the ACT so that’s super good. Who knows, maybe she is smarter than me. So this letter is really just to say thanks for everything you all have done for me.

A mission where I have seen 1 white person in the last 3 months, and no outside contact gives a person a lot of time to think. Just know I pray for you guys all the time, and I also can’t decide if my lack of knowledge on the outside world is helping me grow and focus more on the work or driving me crazy. But, never the less, I know the world keeps turning regardless.

It’s not that I don’t have a lot to say, but it’s that I have too much to say. So just so you know I love you guys and I hope Josh enjoys the home life. Loving the people and the work.

Love,

Elder Buhler

Week 21: " I had Dog and its Actually Really Good."

Written December 22, 2014 at 4:00pm – Kiribati

Dear Family,

It’s Christmas!!! Haha, not really, but it’s pretty close. December 22nd right now, and it’s still as hot as ever. So bummed about no snow for Christmas. I’m always trying to explain 4 seasons to people here and especially snow, but it’s pretty tough. But I love it here.

We had our big Christmas celebration here last week at the chapel with basically all members from the whole island, and some family and friends of members who should be baptized but have various concerns to resolve. It was pretty dang fun. Just straight chillin’, ya know. I had a bunch of candy Elder Kim and I have received from fam and we gave most of it away. It’s pretty sick to see people’s faces when they try American stuff – always super happy, but overwhelmed by the flavor. It was a 2 day even. A lot of people slept the night in the classrooms the first day and after was just straight food prep, people playing Sorry the boardgame, but they make their own board and it’s played with cards. Stuff like that. Tons I could write about it, but that’s for a later time. We had a baptismal service later that day. We did it ocean side this time. Pretty much just vibin’ to the Spirit, ya know. Oh and I had dog for the first time, it’s actually really good fun fact.

There was this pretty cool story that just barely happened. So sometimes we rent a truck to pick up members from around the whole island so we can have church together at the chapel. Otherwise Elder Kim and I bike the island the whole day and do sacrament meetings for 4 villages (not including the one at the chapel). Anyways, we got on the car to make sure our people who just got baptized would get on so they could be confirmed. 5 total baptized. 2 made it on the car and 1 got sick from the pig from Christmas (I ate that same pig so just imagine the pyrotechnics that would have been taking place inside my colon. Absolutely spectacular let me tell you.) so a bummer he couldn’t come but understandable. Then there was this teenage girl who  missed the car straight up but we talked to her since so we will be good to go next week. And finally Been (his name), this 11 years old kid who.  He was the one person I didn't get to teach until recently because straight up he couldn't understand my accent. His family got on the car, but he was nowhere to be found. We waited for a bit, but regrettably we had to move on. I was super bummed. So we went to the next village and we were there for an unusually long time. But I was just chillin’ talking to some members and reading my Kiribati BoM waiting for awhile. When all of a sudden this head popped up near the tailgate of the truck. It was Been! We were all completely shocked. First thing his mom says “Elder hang korakora ana onimakilei (his faith is strong), we all busted up laughing. Let me explain why. The villages are what I imagine to be a 20-30 minute walk, and this kid who when we first started teaching him was only able to understand very basic concepts had just run that. The life here is very different. Running a long distance is not something someone would generally do. We had had some people not come to a 12 minute, 4 person sacrament meeting 15 yards away from their house because they were cooking. Which is completely funny because it was the dinner they were cooking for us! A dinner we would eat a little after sacrament meeting (see Luke 10:38-42 for biblican story of similar events). Plus it had been (not the name) pretty unusual. We had waited in that other village so long, so I would love to know more than anything his thought process through that whole ordeal. If he had planned to run straight to the chapel or what? That is pretty dang far to run for a church. I have only recently realized he understands and has retained most of what we have taught him. Whatever truly did go through his mind I know that God had a plan that day and he executed it flawlessly that day as he always does. To perform what, to me, is nothing short of a miracle.

Loving the people of Marakei so much. Obviously learning the language of a country you only realized existed a few short months ago is interesting, but I’m comfortable communicating with anyone (even Been) :). It all comes down to prayer. Gift of tongues is straight up real. I promise everyone will work out regardless of your circumstances if you just love the people around you. These people are some of the happiest people I have ever known. Not by ignorance, they understand they are many things we take for granted they will never have, so although for all of you the Christmas has long passed, be grateful and show thanks for everything. Pray more earnestly. Love more fervently, and allow yourselves to be happy “regardless of your circumstances” – Uchtdorf. Christmas definitely won’t be the same, but I think it will be my favorite Christmas yet.

Sincerely,
Elder Jacob Buhler

Week 19: "Its Like "The Other Side of Heaven.'"

Written 12/01/2014 – Monday – 3:14pm (3rd letter in 19 weeks)

** We did not hear from him at Christmas. He was on a remote island that does not have internet service or the capacity for him to call.  He does not email. Gratefully, he has a mission president that when his mother is really dying...she can email him to make sure her son is alive. 

Writing on this paper as a sort of side note. The mission is going well; continued progress as always. I ask lots of questions which I think helps. I am not afraid to be ridiculed or be told it’s something I already know. Sometimes I feel a little foolish but that’s all part of the learning process. And I am always very keen to learn. I also don’t kill myself to learn the language. I am very aware of my strengths and I know I could completely immerse myself and obsessively learn the language, but there is a chance of some very unwelcoming side effects to that. I could become irritable and tough to work with if I go into a zone like that. I could go crazy out here, which on an island in the middle of the ocean isn’t desirable. And most importantly there is a good chance I would lose track of WHY I’m learning the language. I’m here to immerse myself in a culture, love a people, and preach the gospel. Not to add something to a resume.

I will be very straightforward and honest with you and tell you I have weaknesses and yes they are plentiful, but I am willing to acknowledge them and turn to prayer for hopeful guidance from a loving Heavenly Father and let myself be 1 Nephi 20:10.

I love it here. Straight up a lot of similarities with The Other Side of Heaven. Elder Kim even said he has had his head and hand chewed by rats. Not gushing blood but still pretty interesting. Most people are family, etc.

Have I gotten discouraged? Rarely, but yes. Usually when I hear someone say something about my language or I straight have no clue what to say. But straight up honestly, I testify to the gift of tongues because I am still learning this language very quickly and faster than most I figure. That’s God’s strength not mine. I am HAPPY here. I tell my rougher times (3-4 times) so you can realize that I am human and make mistakes too. But I couldn’t be in a better place than right here because this is where I am called. Pray a lot. Read words of prophets both past and present and realize happiness is now and not only that things will only get better. I love you all and something I realized for me, the small and simple decisions influence the big ones, not the other way around. Will write more when I get letters.

Elder Buhler

Love you all. Thanks for stuff. Wrote this before package came. Had to write J-Botch. Will write at a later time. Super busy. Know I love you all. Hope this is good too.

Jacob wrote Justin that he got our "humongous" package and used all the decorations we sent to decorate their little abode. It made the $287 to send it worth it.